掌握对话的艺术
即便你生性害羞或内向，这也正是你掌握对话艺术的方法。
我不会跟女生说话。
我不知道该跟他说什么。
我知道自己听起来像个傻瓜。
这会在你的事业和人际关系中赋予你巨大的优势。
英文原文
This is how you master the art of conversation, even if you're shy or introverted.I can't talk to girls.
I don't know what to say to him.
I know I sound like an idiot.
It gives you an unfair advantage in your career and your relationship.
我小时候非常害羞。在开口之前，我总会在脑子里把每一句话都排练一遍。但我学到的是：你无法通过延长微笑或歪头这类小技巧来掌控对话。那场对话有一半甚至都不属于你。所以今天，我将分享四项技能，让你的对话变得更有趣、更成功、更有意义。最后一项技能还能挽救一段你深切在乎的关系。
英文原文
I was ridiculously shy growing up. I used to rehearse every line in my head before saying it. But what I learned is [music] this, you can't control a conversation with tricks like smiling longer or tilting your head. Half of that conversation isn't even yours. So today, I'll share four skills that make your conversation more interesting, more successful, more meaningful. And the last one can save a relationship you deeply care about.好感度偏差与 PLAY 原则
让我们从最让我惊讶的一点开始：刚认识你的人，对你的喜爱程度其实远超过你的想象。康奈尔大学、耶鲁大学和哈佛大学的心理学家把陌生人两两配对，让他们互相交谈。之后，每个人都必须回答两个问题：
你有多喜欢对方？
以及，你认为对方有多喜欢你？
英文原文
Let's start with the one that surprised me the most. The person you just met likes you more than you think. Psychologists at Cornell, Yale, Harvard paired up strangers and they had them talk to each other. And afterwards, every person had to answer two questions.How much did you like the other person?
And how much do you think they liked you?
在第二个问题上，每个人都一致给出了偏低的猜测。他们低估了别人对自己的喜爱程度。研究人员称之为“好感度偏差”（liking gap）。有趣的部分在于：人们后来观看了录像，他们很容易就能看出彼此有多喜欢对方，那在屏幕上一目了然。
英文原文
On that second question, every single one of them consistently guessed low. They underestimated how much others liked them. The researchers called it the liking gap. And here's the interesting part.People later watched the recordings and they could easily tell how much they liked each other. It was right there on screen.
但在实际对话过程中，大多数人都猜错了。因为在对话中，你正忙着关注自己。你太沉浸在自己该说什么、对方会作何反应中，以至于没有注意到对方正在释放喜欢你的明确信号。年轻时，我是个不折不扣的笨拙之人。我害羞得痛苦，缺乏自信，而且百分之百确信女性绝不会觉得我有吸引力或魅力。她们一旦了解我，就会逃之夭夭。所以，在每次对话中我都会心存戒备，精神高度紧张：我给人的印象如何？我听起来蠢吗？我接下来该说什么？我应该更幽默一点吗？正是在你被某人吸引的那些时刻，你不再是与对方对话，而是开始在与自己对话。
Sandeep？
额。
英文原文
But during the actual conversation, most guessed it wrong. Because during the conversation, you're busy watching yourself. You get too wrapped up in what you should say and how it will be received by the other person that you don't notice that the other person's sending clear signals that they like you. When I was young, I was a total klutz.I was painfully shy. I lacked in confidence, and I was 100% sure women would not find me attractive or charismatic. The moment they will get to know me, they'll run away. So, in every conversation, my guard would be up. I would be so stressed out. How am I coming across? Do I sound stupid? What should I say next? Should I be funnier? It are those moments that you're attracted to someone that you stop having a conversation with them, and you start having it with yourself.
Sandeep?
Uh
我们总以为对方在注视着我们的一举一动。但心理学家告诉我们存在“焦点效应”（spotlight effect）。在康奈尔大学，学生们穿着一件非常令人尴尬的 T 恤走进房间，他们估计大约半个房间的人都会注意到。但实际注意到的只有 20%。大多数时候，我们都活在自己的脑海里。那么，你该如何摆脱这个陷阱？四个动作：PLAY，即 P-L-A-Y。
英文原文
And we think that they're watching every move of ours. But psychologists tell us about the spotlight effect. So, at Cornell, students walked into a room wearing a very embarrassing t-shirt. And they guessed about half the room would notice.Only 20% did.
We're all in our own heads most of the time. So, how do you get out of this trap? Four moves. Play. P L A Y.
P 代表投射（Projection）。想想你在电影院看过的上一部精彩电影。当时你会担心自己坐在影院里的样子吗？会担心衬衫上有没有爆米花吗？当然不会。你完全沉浸在故事中了。在对话中，你也可以尝试这样做：停止审视自己，全身心沉浸在眼前正在上映的“电影”中——也就是与你在一起的那个人。我会问自己一个问题：“关于这个人，有什么是我还不知道的？”这会把你的紧张转化为好奇心。
英文原文
P is for projection. Think about the last great movie that you watched in a movie theater. Now, were you worried about how you looked sitting in that theater, whether there was popcorn on your shirt? Of course not. You were completely absorbed in the story.Well, you can try to do the same in a conversation. Stop watching yourself. Get absorbed about the movie that's playing in front of you. The person you're with.
I ask myself one question. What's the one thing about this person I don't know? That changes your nervousness into curiosity.
L 代表被喜爱（Liked）。我们刚才谈到了好感度偏差。请记住，对方对你的喜爱程度远超过你的想象。所以，走进对话时不要预设自己会被拒绝。给他们一个机会。真希望我二十多岁时就知道这一点。
英文原文
Now, L is for liked. Now, we talked about it, the liking gap. Remember the other person likes you way more than you think. So, don't walk into a conversation assuming rejection.Give them a chance. I wish I knew that when I was in my 20s.
A 代表允许（Allow）。允许自己被看见。在约会或面试前排练台词，实际上可能会让你更紧张，而不是更放松。当然，你应该记下想要涵盖的核心主题，但也要为真实的自己留出空间。如今我总是对自己说：如果他们不喜欢我的长相，好吧，反正我就这一副皮囊。
英文原文
A is for allow. Allow yourself to be seen.When you rehearse lines before meeting someone new on a date or interview, it can actually make you more nervous, not less. You should note the key themes, of course, that you want to cover, but allow room for who you are.
Nowadays, I always tell myself, if they don't like my face, well, that's the only one I've got.
Y 代表接纳（Yes）。对你的紧张情绪说是。不要抗拒它。当你紧张时心跳会加速，而当你兴奋时心跳同样会加速。那为什么不干脆把它称作兴奋呢？我从十几岁起就登台表演，即便在今天，上台前我也能感觉到心怦怦直跳。我告诉自己：“没错，这太令人兴奋了。”然后继续前行。
英文原文
And Y is for yes. Say yes to your nervousness. Don't fight it. Your heart races when you're nervous, and it races when you're excited.So, why not call it excitement?
I've been performing on stage since I was a teenager.
And even today, I can feel my heart thumping before I get on. I tell myself, yeah, this is exciting. And get on with it.
石头与种子：提问的艺术
这就是为什么我把第一项技能称为“PLAY”的原因，因为你可以花上一整天去规划自己要说什么，但你无法预设对方会如何回应。把任何对话都想象成一场网球赛：你击球，看对方打回来什么，然后再作回应。奇妙之处就在于这种来回互动中。而一场精彩对攻的秘诀，就在于懂得如何应对打回来的任何球。平淡无奇的对话与引人入胜的对话之间的区别，就在于你接下来问什么。
英文原文
And here's the reason why I called the first skill play, because you can plan all day long about what you're going to say, but you can't plan what they're going to say back.Think of any conversation like a tennis match. You hit the ball, see what comes back, and respond. The magic is in that back and forth.
And the secret of a great rally is knowing what to do with whatever comes back.
The difference between a boring conversation and a fascinating one is what you ask next.
我把这项技能称为“石头与种子”。有些问题像石头，落下去沉闷无声，没有后文；有些问题则是种子，能生发成故事。举个例子：你在晚宴上遇到某人，问道：“你是做什么工作的？”
哦，我是名会计。
哦，挺酷的。你在哪里工作？
曼哈顿。
哦，嗯，好吧。你在那里工作很久了吗？
4 年。
这是一场充满石头的对话，无处可去。
英文原文
I call this skill stones and seeds. Some questions are like stones. They land with a thud and go nowhere. Some are seeds. They grow into stories. Here's an example.You meet someone at a dinner party and you ask, "Well, what do you do?"
Oh, I'm an accountant.
Oh, cool. Where do you work?
Manhattan.
Oh, um yeah, okay. Have you worked there long?
4 years.
That's a conversation full of stones. It goes nowhere.
现在，让我们用种子再试一次。“你是做什么工作的？”
哦，我是名会计。
哦，挺酷的。你一直都想做会计吗？
其实不是，我原本想自己开公司。
真的吗？什么样的公司？
说来话长了。小时候……
现在，对话打开了。接下来她要讲的，是一个只有她能讲述的故事。你听到了意料之外的事，抓住了那个线索并顺藤摸瓜。这就是即兴发挥。
英文原文
Now, let's try it again with a seed. "What do you do?"Oh, I'm an accountant.
Oh, cool. Did you always want to be an accountant?
Actually, no. I wanted to start my own company.
Really? What kind of company?
It's a long story. So, when I was little
Now, you're off.
Whatever she will say next is a story only she can tell. You heard something unexpected. You picked up that thread and followed it. That's improvisation.
有时你甚至可以直接以种子开场。你没必要每次都问“你是做什么工作的？”你可以尝试问：“嗨，你这周发生的最有趣的事是什么？”哈佛大学的研究人员研究了真实快速约会中的对话，发现提问更多的人更受欢迎。这很合情合理。但真正的优势来自于追问。提出追问的人获得第二次约会的可能性明显更高。真希望我二十多岁时就知道这一点。玩笑归玩笑，追问是在告诉对方：你在认真听，而且你想了解更多。
英文原文
And sometimes you can even start with the seed itself.You don't have to say "What do you do?" all the time. You can try something like, "Hi, what's been the most interesting part of your week?" Harvard University researchers studied conversations during real speed dates. And people who asked more questions were better liked. Well, that makes sense. But the real advantage came from follow-up questions.
People asked follow-up questions were more likely to get a second date.
I wish I knew that when I was in my 20s. But all kidding aside, a follow-up tells the other person you heard them and you want more.
最重要的种子
有时，最重要的种子往往是无人播下的那一颗。在我的成长过程中，我和父亲合不来。你们有些人可能已经听过了，我曾谈起过这事。他曾有过身体虐待行为。如今我和过去的经历有了一定距离，我认为他当时可能遭受着心理健康问题的困扰，却无法向任何人诉说，也无法寻求帮助。总之，我在十几岁时离家出走，流落街头过一段时间，最后接受了僧侣的修行训练。
英文原文
And sometimes the most important seed is the one nobody plants.Growing up, my uh dad and I didn't get along. Some of you may have heard already, I've talked about this. He was physically abusive and now that I have had some distance from my past, I think he may have suffered from mental health issues and wasn't able to talk about it to anyone, wasn't able to ask for help. Anyway, so I ran away from home as a teenager, was homeless for, uh, a little bit, ended up training as a monk.
多年后，我在波士顿定居。我父亲来探望我和我的未婚妻（也就是现在的妻子）。这很有意思：我能看出他为我能够自立并站稳脚跟感到多么自豪。他很喜欢我们的家。我们从来没有深入长谈过很多，但偶尔会有些交谈。我不认为我们后来成为了朋友，但我能够在那位曾在我生命中沉重无比的父亲形象背后，看到一个脆弱的普通人。要知道，他就像我们所有人一样，只是在努力寻找回家的路。
英文原文
And years later, I had settled down in Boston. And my dad came to visit me and my fiance, now my wife. And it's very interesting. I could see how proud he was that I had landed on my feet.He loved our home.
We never talked a lot, but [music] we had some occasional conversations. I don't think we ever became friends, but I was able to see that vulnerable human being behind the father figure that weighed so heavily in my life.
You know, he was just like any of us trying to find his way home.
在回孟买的路上，在机场，他轻轻牵起我的手亲吻了一下，说了句：“祝贺你，祝贺你，祝贺你。”他连说了三遍。他说：“我真为你感到骄傲。”那是我最后一次见到他。他去世的时候，真希望有人能轻柔地问我一句：“嘿，跟我聊聊你父亲吧。”那本来会是一颗多么美妙的种子。因为我会滔滔不绝地谈论他好几个小时。谈论一个浑身充满缺陷、一生都在迷失的人，如何在生命尾声找到了回家的路。那本来会是一场极好的对话。我多想和某个人，甚至任何一个人，拥有那样一场对话。这就是种子的力量。有些种子能长成参天大树，有些则能治愈正在枯萎的灵魂。
英文原文
And on his way back to Mumbai, at the airport, he took my hand gently and kissed it and, uh, said, "Congratulations. Congratulations. Congratulations." He said it three times.And he said, "I'm so proud of you." And, uh, that was the last time I saw him. You know, when he passed away, um, I wish somebody had asked me gently Hey, tell me about your dad.
You know, that would have been such an amazing seed.
Because I would have talked about him for hours.
About how a deeply flawed man who was lost all his life found his way back home toward the end.
That would have been a great conversation. I would have loved to have that conversation with someone, with anyone.
That's the power of seeds. Some seeds can grow a tree and some can heal the withering ones.
这就是 AI 可以借助像 Zapier 这样的自动化工具帮助你培育那些种子的地方。他们赞助了本期视频的这部分内容，因为我想向你们展示我是如何记录人们与我分享的内容的。Zapier 有一个叫做 MCP 的东西，这只是连接你的 AI 智能体与所用应用程序的一个网关的高级叫法。这样你就不仅局限于那个提示词窗口了。你进入 Zapier，几分钟内就能连接好，而且只需要设置一次。你选择想要连接的应用，给 AI 所需的全部权限。我开启了 Google Calendar、Google Docs 和我的 Gmail。这就搞定了，大功告成。
英文原文
This is where AI can help you nurture those seeds with an automation tool like Zapier.They're sponsoring this part of the video because I wanted to show you how I keep track of what people share with me.
Zapier has this thing called MCP. It's just a fancy word for a gateway that connects your AI agents to the apps that you use. So, you're not limited to that prompt window. You go to Zapier. You connect it within minutes and you do it only once.
You choose which apps you want to connect to and give AI all the permissions you need. I am turning on Google Calendar, Google Docs and my Gmail.
And that's it. You're done.
我用一个简单的 Google 文档来记录人物笔记。于是在对话结束后，我会输入类似这样的话：“Taylor 的钢琴独奏会是在 11 月 10 日。起草并在 9 日发邮件祝她好运。添加到我的人物笔记中，并在 Google Calendar 中设置一个提醒，以便 15 日见到她时问问情况如何。”所以你看，种子种下了，提醒也会在关键时刻准时出现。
英文原文
I keep a simple Google Doc for my people notes. So, after a conversation, I would type something like Taylor's piano recital is on November 10th.Draft and send an email wishing her good luck on the 9th. Add it to my people notes and put a reminder in Google Calendar to ask her how it went when I see her on the 15th.
So, you see, the seed is planted and the reminder shows up right when it matters.
敞开心扉：区分“个人的”与“私密的”
现在进入第三项技能：你可以整晚都在提出绝妙的问题，却依然让对方对你一无所知。我们已经讲过了如何吸引他人，现在来谈谈如何让他们走进你的世界。
在全世界范围内，鲜有电影明星能比西尔维斯特·史泰龙（Sylvester Stallone）更家喻户晓。《洛奇》《第一滴血》《敢死队》，近 50 年来他一直是一代人心目中的动作英雄。但我们最近发现，即便被数百万人认识，你依然可能很难让别人真正了解你。
英文原文
Now, onto the third skill, you can ask beautiful questions all evening and still leave them knowing nothing about you. We have covered how to draw people in.Let's talk about how to let them in.
Few movie stars have become more recognizable around the world than Sylvester Stallone. Rocky, Rambo, The Expendables, he's been the action hero of a generation for almost 50 years now. But, we found out recently you can be known by millions and still struggle to let someone truly know you.
在我最近看到的一段关于他回忆录的采访中，他谈到了自己极其艰难的童年，以及与父母双方那段非常不完美且复杂的关系。在整整一生中，他都把那些痛苦的记忆封锁了起来。他甚至把著名的强壮体魄称为自己的“盔甲”。在最令人心碎的时刻之一，他坦承直到 70 岁左右才真正弄懂真爱。史泰龙曾是我们一无所知的、最广为人知的陌生人。
英文原文
In a recent interview that I saw about his [music] memoir, he talks about his incredibly rough childhood and a very flawed, complex relationship with both his parents.And for his entire life, he had locked all those painful memories away.
He even called his famous physique his armor.
In In one of the most heartbreaking moments, he confessed that he didn't really figure out true love until he was around 70.
Stallone was one of the most recognized stranger we knew nothing about.
因此，让别人走进你的内心是如此重要。当你这样做时，可以遵循一条简单的规则：保持个人化，而非私密化（be personal, not private）。
所谓“个人的”（Personal），是指你所关心的事、最近在学习的东西、犯过的小错误、可以一笑置之的趣事、本周让你惊讶的事情。当你坦诚分享这些时，人们能与你产生共鸣。而所谓“私密的”（Private），则是你只与少数信任的人分享的内容。这始于你如何回答最简单的问题：
你喜欢旅行吗？
是的，我很喜欢。
或者你也可以说：“是的，我很喜欢。我最喜欢的旅行是那些没有固定计划的，我希望意外的惊喜迎面而来。”现在，他们对你有所了解了。你打开了大门，让别人走了进来。
英文原文
So, it's so important that you let someone in.When you do, you can follow one simple rule. You can be personal, not private.
Personal is what you care about, what you've been learning recently, what mistakes you've been making, the things that you can laugh about, something that surprised you this week. When you share all that openly, people relate to you.
And private is what you share with a few trusted ones. It starts with how you answer the simplest questions.
Do you like traveling?
Yeah, I love it.
Or you can say, "Yeah, I love it. The trips I love the most are the ones with no fixed plan.
I want surprises to come my way." Now, they know something about you.
You've opened the door to let someone in.
把你自己想象成一栋拥有三个情感房间的房子：
- 门廊是表面事实所在之处。每个人都可以知道你的工作、你最喜欢的运动队；
- 但第二个房间是你的客厅。那是你的个人空间，真正的对话在这里发生；
- 然后是卧室。那是你的私密空间，专属于少数与你极为亲近的人。
这就是层层递进的过程。史泰龙在他人生近 70 年里把所有人都挡在了门廊外，你大可不必如此。
英文原文
Think of yourself as a house with three emotional rooms. The porch is where the superficial facts live. Everyone can know your job, your favorite sports team, but the second room is your living room. That's your personal space.This is where real conversations happen.
And then, there's the bedroom. That's your private space. It's for the few people who become close to you. So, that's the progression.
Stallone kept everyone on the porch for almost 70 years of his life.
You don't have to.
对话的目的与化解冲突
现在是最后一项技能，它能成就也能毁掉任何一段对话：你可以赢下一场争论，却失去一段关系。输掉争论，保住关系。
研究人员记录了 112 次医患问诊。只有大约三分之一的患者能够完整解释他们为何就医。而且即便如此，医生往往在患者开始说话约 11 秒后就打断插话了。这就是习惯。我们所有人都倾向于这么做，因为我们非常擅长解决问题。我以前在工作中也经常这样：别人刚开始解释，听到一半，我已经决定好解决方案是什么了。但这不是进行有意义对话的正确方式。
英文原文
And now, the final skill that can make or break any conversation.You can win an argument and lose a relationship.
Lose the argument, keep the relationship.
Researchers recorded 112 visits between doctors and patients. Only about a third of the patients got to explaining why they'd come in. And even then, the doctors jumped in about 11 seconds after the patient started talking.
And that's the habit. We all tend to do that because we're very good at solving things. And I used to do this at work. Someone starts explaining, and halfway through, I've already decided what the solution's going to be. But, that's not the right way of having a meaningful conversation.
我认为对话有三个目的：
- 解决（Fix）：对方想要一个解决方案。他们想解决一个问题，这就是他们找你谈话的原因。
- 理清（Figure out）：他们想和你一起探讨，把想法大声说出来整理思绪。
- 感受（Feel）：他们只是想被倾听。
例如，你的伴侣说：“我觉得我不喜欢我的工作。”如果这是一场“解决型”对话，他们是在寻求帮助，想解决问题，寻找一份新工作；如果是一场“理清型”对话，他们仍在试图判断自己的处境以及接下来该做什么；而如果是一场“感受型”对话，他们只是需要有人听听他们最近的工作有多辛苦。因此，你在每种对话中的角色是不同的。如果你诊断错误，就会演变成一场难以弥合的艰难对话：
我们来给你找份新工作吧。
我不能随随便便就找新工作。你根本没在听我说。
所以，不妨直接问一句：“你希望得到帮助、倾听，还是拥抱？”（Do you want to be helped, heard, or hugged?）这句话确实很有用。
英文原文
I think of conversations as having three purposes.One, fix. The other person wants a solution. They want to fix a problem. That's why they're talking to you.
Two, figure [snorts] out. They want to explore it with you.
Think it out loud.
And three, feel [snorts].
They just want to be heard.
So, for example, your partner says, "I don't think I like my job." If it's a fix conversation, they want help. They want to solve the problem. They want to find a new job. If it's a figure conversation, they're still trying to decide where they fall, what to do next. And if it's a feel conversation, they just need someone to hear how hard their work has been lately.
So, your job changes in each of those conversations. If you diagnose it wrong, [music] it becomes a hard conversation to recover from.
Let's find you a new job.
I can't just find a new job. You're not listening.
So, just ask, "Do you want to be helped, heard, or hugged?"
There's something to it.
当你自己就是问题所在时，这项技能就变得更加困难了。你的伴侣说：“你从来不听我说话。”而你的本能反应是立刻为自己辩解：“从来不？你说的从来是什么意思？我们昨天才聊了整整 2 个小时。”
第一步是不要对此产生防卫心理。我在这里学到的最大教训来自谈判专家罗杰·费希尔（Roger Fisher）和威廉·尤里（William Ury）。他们合著了《谈判力》（Getting to Yes）一书，谈到要透过表面的话语，去探寻对方真正担心的是什么、是什么导致了这种行为。“嘿，我整个周末都没收到你的消息。”这听起来可能像是一句抱怨甚至指责，但背后的担忧或许是“我想你了”。
英文原文
Now, this skill is harder when you are the problem. Your partner says, "You never listen to me." And your instinct is to immediately defend yourself. "Never? What do you mean never? We just talked for 2 hours yesterday."The first step is to not become defensive about it. My biggest lesson here comes from negotiation experts Roger Fisher and William Ury. They [clears throat] wrote a book Getting to Yes, and they talk about looking past what someone is saying and get to what they're actually worried about, what's causing that behavior. "Hey, I didn't hear from you all weekend."
You know, that may sound like a complaint or even an accusation, but maybe the worry underneath might be I missed you.
第二步是营造安全感，让对方不会产生防卫心理。谈论观察到的事实，而不是针对人。如果你说：“嘿，你错过了截止日期。”好吧，这是个问题，但你们可以讨论它，也可以挽回局面。如果相反你说：“你太不负责任了。”那就很难挽回了。
第三，一次争论只对准一个问题。如果在争论洗碗的过程中，你开始扯到丈母娘/婆婆身上，那事情绝不会有好结局。所以，尽量围绕核心议题。这样一来，双方都有足够的空间去共同思考。
英文原文
Then, the second step is to create safety so the other person doesn't feel defensive about it. Talk about the observation and not the person. If you say, "Hey, you missed the deadline." Okay, that's a problem, but you can talk about it. You can recover from it. If instead you say, "You're so irresponsible." [snorts] That's hard to recover from.And third, one argument, one issue.
In the middle of the dishwashing argument, if you start arguing about your mother-in-law, it will never end well.
So, try to stay on the core topic. And now, both of you have enough room to think together.
每次只要我再多坚持一点点，保持开放的心态去倾听对方的视角，就能彻底化解艰难对话中的压力。任何对话中最艰难的时刻，就是当你感到受伤且坚信自己是正确的时候。在那一刻，你能说的最有力量的一句话是：“你能帮我理解一下吗？”（Can you please help me understand?）
因为坐在你对面的人，比赢得这一局更重要。
英文原文
Every time I have hung in there just a little bit more and stayed open to hear the other person's perspective, it has completely deflated the pressure of a hard conversation. The hardest moment in any conversation is when you're hurt and sure you're right.That's when the most powerful thing you can say is, "Can you please help me understand?"
Because the person across from you matters more than winning this round.
这就是为什么这第四项技能如此重要，因为一场出色的对话真的可以改变你的人生。多年前，我误了一班火车，在站台上遇到了一位完全陌生的人。而那一次交谈改变了我的人生。我们一起组了乐队，一起做音乐，环游世界。因此，你的人生以及与你所爱之人的关系，就是一场永无止境的对话。
有一首印地语歌曲我经常想起，歌词大致可以翻译为：一曲悠长的爱之旋律，如起伏的波涛般流淌。
这就是人生。它不过是一段你我共同分享的故事。
谢谢大家。
我爱你们。
英文原文
And this is why this fourth skill is so important because a great conversation can change your life, literally. Years ago, I missed a train and met a complete stranger on the platform. And that single conversation changed my life. [music] We started a band together. We made music together. We traveled the world. So, [music] your life and your relationship with someone you love is one never-ending conversation.There is a song in Hindi that I think about a lot. The lyrics can roughly be translated as one long melody of love flowing like the waves that rise and fall.
That's life.
It's nothing more than a story [music] that you and I share together.
Thank you.
And I love you.