灾难与启示:从“坏运气”到“内建不幸”
2025年1月7日,一场突如其来的火灾吞噬了我的家、岳父母的房子以及附近的大片区域。那天,我正焦头烂额地试图在最后一刻提交一篇重要的管理学会议论文,却被卡在了上传队列中。就在此时,太平洋 Palisades地区发布了山火疏散令。我一手拿着笔记本电脑,另一手拿着水管,在外场拼命地给房子浇水,希望能赶在上传成功前保住家园。彼时,我以为这是我最大的难题。然而,事与愿违,尽管文件成功上传,我奋力抵抗的洪水般的火焰最终还是在24小时后摧毁了我们的家。撤离时,低空飞过的灭火飞机仿佛来自一部糟糕的好莱坞电影,而我的妻子则在努力安顿好新生儿和刚放学的幼儿的同时,挤着母乳。当晚在酒店,我们努力对孩子们表现得尽可能正常,但三岁的女儿抬头问:“我想回家。”我研究、教授和工作于“意外”领域已超过十年,亲身经历了不少突发事件,但这次的冲击远超以往。接下来的几天,我试图专注于可控之事,并惊奇地发现了微小的喜悦时刻,比如在疏散酒店意外遇到老朋友。这段经历成为了一个意想不到但绝非所愿的机会,让我得以实践我一直在研究的“随机应变”(serendipity)心态框架,这正是我们应对此类情境的关键。但首先,我们来谈谈“坏运气”。
Original English
On January 7, 2025, our house, my wife's parents' house and most of our neighborhood burned down to the ground. On that day, I was about to submit a paper to a major management conference, and like a rookie, I had left it to the last hour and was stuck in the uploading queue. That's when the evacuation order came in for the LA wildfires in Pacific Palisades, where we lived. I found myself outside hosing down the house with one hand and holding the laptop with the other, desperately trying to get that document to upload. At that point, I thought that was my biggest problem. Turns out it wasn't. The document did upload. The hosing, however, did not work, and 24 hours later, our house was gone. I'll never forget the firefighting planes flying so low overhead as we evacuated. It felt like a really bad Hollywood movie. My wife was pumping breast milk as we were trying to get our newborn to safety and our toddler from preschool. That night in the hotel, as we tried to act as normal as possible towards the kids, my then-three-year-old daughter looked up and said, "I want to go home." You know, I've researched, taught and worked on the unexpected for over a decade, and I've seen a fair share of unexpected events myself. But this hit on a whole new level. In the days that followed, I tried to focus on the things that I could control. And surprisingly, there were micro-moments of joy, like unexpectedly bumping into old friends in the hotel that we evacuated to. And that experience was an unexpected and certainly not wished-for opportunity to practice the very serendipity mindset framework that I had been working on, and that can help us navigate those kinds of situations. More on that later. But first, let's talk about bad luck. It all felt like really bad luck. But when I reflected on it, I realized it was more than that. It was zemblanity.
理解“内建不幸”(Zemblanity)的本质
起初,一切都像是纯粹的“坏运气”。但当我深入反思后,我意识到这不仅仅是运气不佳,更是“内建不幸”(Zemblanity)。“内建不幸”指的是那些看似意外、令人不悦或不受欢迎的事件,实际上是由于系统本身的设计或固有缺陷而发生的。它们表面上看起来是突如其来的厄运,但在事后看来,却是可以预见且本可避免的。以我家为例,虽然火灾和强风是直接的触发因素,但真正导致灾难的根源早已内嵌于我们周围脆弱的系统中:供水系统水量不足,尽管有早期预警,消防车在区域内的预先部署却十分有限;区域内灌木丛生未被及时清理;并且整体协调严重缺失。问题并非出在单一环节,而是多重因素叠加。回想起来,那是一个充满了无限负面可能性的空间,最终的灾难已在所难免。值得注意的是,即使我们竭尽所能去做“正确”的事情,系统中的“内建不幸”仍然可能将我们卷入其中。我们遭遇的并非仅仅是糟糕的运气,而是一种我在各种情境下都曾见过的模式——从山火到董事会,再到客厅。
“内建不幸”的影响不仅限于宏大的系统,比如山火案例。我们在拥有有毒企业文化的公司中也能看到同样的模式,在那里,灾难的发生只是时间问题。有时,“内建不幸”甚至存在于我们自身的心智中。这意味着我们可能在不知不觉中,为自己创造了“坏运气”。例如,那位计划刚好卡着所需时间去机场的旅客;任何微小的意外,如一场小小的交通堵塞,都可能导致航班延误。又比如那位被医生告知要使用拐杖的老人,但他并未遵循医嘱,某天便“意外”地从楼梯上摔了下来。这些事件在当下可能令人震惊,但从长远来看,却是可以预见的。看起来像是“坏运气”,但其根源早已悄然埋下。
Original English
But when I reflected on it, I realized it was more than that. It was zemblanity. Zemblanity is when something unlucky, unwanted or undesired happens by design because it's already built in. It seems unexpected and like bad luck, but in hindsight it was to be expected and avoidable. In our case, the wildfires and the winds were the trigger, but the real misfortune was already built into the fragile system all around us. There was a lack of water in the water reservoirs and hydrants, a limited pre-deployment of fire trucks in the area despite the early warnings. Brush wasn’t cleared in the area, and a complete lack of coordination. It wasn't just one thing. In retrospect, we realized that it was a space of infinite negative possibilities where eventually misfortune was inevitable. The thing is, even when you try to do the right thing, in the system around you, zemblanity can still be baked in and you get caught up in it. What happened to us wasn't just bad luck. It was a pattern that I've seen everywhere, from wildfires to boardrooms to living rooms. The thing about zemblanity is it’s not just out there in big systems, like in the wildfire case. We see the same in companies with toxic corporate cultures, where it's just a matter of time that disaster strikes. And sometimes even in our own minds. Zemblanity is when we create our own bad luck. Take the traveler who leaves for the airport with exactly the time it's needed to get to the airport. Any small unexpected thing, like a minor traffic jam, and suddenly, the flight is missed. Or take the old man who is told to use his walking stick. He doesn't. One day he "unexpectedly" falls down the stairs. It might seem surprising in the moment, but it was to be expected. Zemblanity seems like bad luck, but it's already built in all along.
幸运矩阵:解析运气的好、坏、设计与主动
在深入探讨之前,我想问大家一个问题:在座的各位,有多少人认为自己是幸运的?请举手。(在家里的朋友,心里举手也行。)好的,看起来在座的各位都相当幸运,做得很好!不用担心,我不问那些认为自己不那么幸运的人。我们今天先聚焦在幸运的各位身上。那么,刚才举手认为自己是幸运的人中,有多少人认为自己在这种幸运中扮演了某种角色?请放下所有的谦虚,有多少人觉得,举手,在其中扮演了某种角色?好的,仍然有不少人。这很有意思,对吧?一方面,我们知道运气似乎是随机的;但另一方面,正如路易斯·巴斯德(Louis Pasteur)所说,“机遇只偏爱有准备的头脑”。
为了更形象地说明这一点,让我们来看看“幸运矩阵”(Luck Matrix)。这个矩阵展示了四种不同类型的运气。左下角是“坏运气”(Bad luck),这是发生在我们身上的消极的、意外的事件。我们无法因此责怪任何人,但它确实会造成很多社会不公。右下角的“好运气”(Good luck)则是积极的,它降临在我们身上,我们并未为此付出努力,但如果发生,那就太棒了。左上角是“内建不幸”(Zemblanity),这是由于我们构建的脆弱系统或固有模式与习惯,最终导致灾难的“有设计的不幸”。而驱动我们过去十年研究的核心,则是“随机应变”(Serendipity)。“随机应变”是一种主动的运气,它取决于我们如何与意外互动。纯粹的运气是发生在“我们身上”的,而“主动的运气”,即“随机应变”,则是可以被培养的。
Original English
Now before I go deeper into this, I want to ask you a question. In the room, who of you considers yourself to be a lucky person, please raise your hands. And at home, a mental hand-raise works too. OK, quite the lucky room, actually, well done. No worries, I won't ask the unlucky ones. We'll focus on the lucky ones for now. Those of you now who said you consider yourself to be a lucky person, who of you thinks they had some sort of role in it? Please put all modesty aside. Who thinks, hands up, had some sort of role in it? OK, still quite a few. Alright, so that's interesting, right, that on one hand, we know that luck is random, but on the other hand, already Louis Pasteur told us that it may favor the prepared mind. In order to visualize this, let’s look at the Luck Matrix. The Luck Matrix shows us the four different types of luck. Here, on the lower left, we see bad luck. Bad luck is something negative, unexpected, that happens to us. It happens to us, you can never blame anyone for bad luck and it creates a lot of societal inequality. Good luck, here on the lower right, is something positive. It happens to us, we didn't work for it. Just great if it happens. Zemblanity is the misfortune by design that we built into fragile systems or into the pattern and habits that kind of then ultimately lead us to disaster. And then the thing that has driven our research for the last decade is serendipity. Serendipity is the active luck that depends on how we engage with the unexpected. Blind luck happens to us, and active luck, serendipity, can be cultivated.
“随机应变”(Serendipity):将意外转化为机遇
想象一下,我有一些笨拙的手部动作。这常常导致我洒出很多咖啡,对吧?假设你不小心将咖啡洒在了旁边的人身上。那个人可能会有点不悦,但你或许能从中感觉到一丝潜在的联系。你不知道具体是什么,只是觉得“这个人可能有点意思”。这时,你有几个选择。一是简单地说:“非常抱歉”,然后离开,心里想着“可能会发生什么呢?”。另一个选择是,你主动开启对话,而这个人最终可能成为你人生挚爱,或是你的创业伙伴,等等。关键在于,最终无论好坏的结果,都取决于我们如何应对这些意料之外的状况。
这正是“随机应变”(Serendipity)的体现。它本质上是一种意想不到的好运,源于那些计划之外的瞬间,在这些瞬间,我们的行动导向了积极的成果。举个例子,1968年,Spencer Silver 试图研发一种更强的胶水。结果,他意外地研制出了一种粘性较弱的胶水。当时看来似乎毫无用处,直到几年后,他的同事Arthur Fry 在使用这种弱胶水来固定教堂圣歌集里的书签,防止它们脱落。这个看似微不足道的用途带来了灵感。Post-it(后得利)笔记就此诞生,并成为了3M公司的主要产品之一。生活中充斥着许多“随机应变”的例子,从魔术贴(Velcro)到微波炉,再到人们意外找到真爱或租到心仪的公寓。很多时候,危机甚至成为个人生活中的转折点。
我们过去十年对“随机应变”及其各种故事的研究,核心在于探寻其背后是否存在某种规律。事实证明,确实存在。这个过程总是相似的:首先,有一个意料之外的“随机应变触发器”(serendipity trigger),它是随机的,就像咖啡洒了,或是那弱效胶水。但接着,我们需要为它赋予意义。我们要“连接点滴”(connect the dots),要看到那个瞬间可能蕴含的潜力,然后将其“物化”(materialize)。仅仅想着“这可能是我的真爱”是远远不够的,你必须真正去约会,对吧?因此,一旦我们将此视为一个可操作的过程,我们便能对其施加影响。
Original English
Imagine you have erratic hand movements like I do. Then you spill a lot of coffee, right? So imagine you accidentally spill coffee over the person next to you. That person looks at you slightly annoyed, but you sense there might be something there. You don't know what, you just think, oh, that could be an interesting person. And now you have a couple of options, right? One is to just say, "I'm so sorry." You walk outside and you think, "Ah, what could have happened?" Another option is you start that conversation and that person becomes the love of your life or your cofounder or you name it. The point is, the eventual outcome, good or bad, depends on how we engage with the unexpected. And that's where serendipity emerges. Serendipity really is this unexpected good luck that results from unplanned moments in which our actions lead to positive outcomes. Let's look at an example. In 1968, Spencer Silver was trying to develop a stronger glue. Accidentally, he developed a weaker one. Seemed useless in the moment, until a couple of years later, his colleague Arthur Fry was using that weak glue to avoid having his bookmarks falling out of his church hymnal. That seemed quite useful. The Post-it note was born and became one of 3M's major products. Lots of examples out there of serendipity, right? From Velcro to microwave ovens to how people unexpectedly find love or their apartments. And a lot of times also when crises become the inflection point for something in one's own life. The point is that over the last decade we've studied serendipity, all these different stories of serendipity, and tried to understand, is there a pattern behind that. And it turns out there is. It's always the same process. There is an unexpected serendipity trigger, which is random, right? So the coffee spill or the weak glue. But then we have to imbue meaning in it. We have to connect the dots, we have to see what could be in that moment, and then we have to materialize it, right? It's not enough to just think, "This could be the love of my life." You've got to actually go on dates, right? And so the point is, once we look at it as a process, we can influence it.
培养“随机应变”心态:看见、播种、连接与行动
我们可以从几个方面入手来培养这种“随机应变”的心态。首先,学会“看见”更多的“随机应变触发器”,并尝试关注这些好运或坏运时刻中隐藏的信息。例如,在每周会议中,我们可以问一个简单的问题:“上周最让你惊讶的是什么?”这能引导人们开始思考,从这些意料之外的事件中是否能提取出有价值的信息。
其次,我们可以学会“播种”更多的“随机应变触发器”。我并不是建议大家故意去洒咖啡。而是说,还有其他方式,比如在一个这样的活动中,主动分享一些富有信息量的内容。当有人问起那个令人头疼的“你是做什么的?”时,你可以这样回答:“嗨,我是Christian Busch,我研究‘随机应变’,但我真正好奇的是育儿,因为我们四岁的孩子刚刚学会了谈判。”通过这种方式,你提供了一些潜在的连接点,让对方有可能产生共鸣,比如:“哦天哪,真是巧合,我们家的孩子也——X、Y、Z。”关键在于,与其给出一个单一维度的陈述,不如提供多维度信息,以及他人可以为你连接的点。
第三,我们可以学会“更好地连接点滴”。例如,在意外时刻问自己:“我还能从中找到什么意义吗?”最后,也是非常重要的一点,我们可以学会“更有行动力”。因为我们常常在这一点上错失“随机应变”的机会。回想一下你人生中那些看到意外机会但却未曾行动的时刻?可能是在会议中闪现的一个绝妙想法,你却没有带进会议;也可能是你单身时在公交车上与某人调情,却没有进一步交流。然后你离开时,不禁想:“如果我当时行动了,会发生什么?”当时有很多原因阻止了我们,对吧?但其中一个主要原因是“害怕被拒绝”。对我来说,我的大脑会立刻想到“如果我这么做了,最坏的结果是什么?”——那就是被拒绝的刺痛。
然而,我以及我们的研究都表明,真正的“最坏情况”并非如此。真正的“最坏情况”是“未曾尝试过的遗憾”。那种走出后,心里想着“如果我当初行动了,会发生什么?”的感觉。因此,将视角从“做这件事的风险是什么?”转移到“不做的风险又是什么?”会非常有益。这样我们就会意识到,不做的风险很多时候远高于去做的风险。这能促使我们倾向于采取行动。
Original English
We can first learn how to see more serendipity triggers to try to focus on what is the information hidden in this good- or bad-luck moment. You know, for example, asking in weekly meetings, what surprised you last week? Very simple question, but then people start to focus on, is there some information in this, kind of, unexpected event that has just been happening here? Second, we can learn how to "seed" more serendipity triggers. And I'm not suggesting you spill more coffee. There [are] other ways, one of which is, at an event like this today, to put some rich information points out there, right? When someone asks the dreaded “So what do you do?” question, saying something like, "Hey, I'm Christian Busch, I study serendipity, but what I'm really curious about is parenting, because our four-year-old just learned how to negotiate.” And so what I'm doing here is I'm giving you a couple of potential connection points where you could be like, "Oh my God, such a coincidence, our kid also -- X, Y, Z." The point is, instead of having a pitch that's unidimensional, it's giving multidimensionality and potential dots that other people can connect for us. Then third, we can learn how to better connect the dots. For example, asking ourselves in unexpected moments, "Can I still find some meaning in this?" And then last but not least, we can also learn how to act more on it because that's where we miss serendipity very often. Think back in your life to moments where you saw an unexpected opportunity in the moment, but you didn't act on it, right? So maybe it was the unexpected idea in a meeting that you didn't bring into the meeting. Or you were flirting with a person on the bus when you were still single, of course, but you were flirting with that person on the bus, and you didn't speak with them. And then you walked outside and think, "Ah, what could have happened had I?" And there's a lot of reasons that hold us back in those moments, right? But one of the major reasons is fear of rejection, right? So in my case, for example, my brain immediately goes to what's the worst thing that can happen if I do this? The sting of rejection. One thing I've realized, though, and our research shows, is that actually, once you start to realize that that is not the real worst case, that the real worst case is the regret of not having tried. That feeling of walking outside and thinking, "Ah, what could have happened?" And so what can be really useful is this idea of reframing away from “What’s the risk of doing this?” to "What's actually the risk of not doing it?" And then we realize, the risk of not doing it is a lot of times much higher than the risk of doing it. So it gives us a bias for action.
为什么“随机应变”心态至关重要?
那么,这种“随机应变”的心态,这种将意外转化为积极结果的能力,为何如此重要?这是因为,无论我们是否看见,无论我们是否喜欢,意外无处不在。某个特定意外事件发生的概率可能非常低。比如,这位女士突然对我大喊大叫,或者这位男士朝我扔一个桃子,这种可能性非常小——我希望如此,但谁知道呢,它本身确实不太可能。然而,当我们把所有可能发生的意外情况加总起来,累积成无数种可能性时,某个意外事件发生就变得相当可能了。
对我这个德国人来说,这有点令人不安,因为我们热爱规划,热爱拥有策略和直线。而生活更像是一条蜿蜒的曲线,意外事件随时可能从四面八方袭来。因此,我们必须为此建立一种“肌肉”——一种应对能力。这不仅适用于“好运气”,同样也适用于“坏运气”。我们对周围环境的警觉性,连接点滴的能力,这些有助于我们培养“随机应变”的心态,也能帮助我们抵御“内建不幸”的侵袭。
当然,心态并非万能药。我们的研究也表明,教育、人脉、安全网等因素在机会空间中扮演着重要角色。但就个体层面而言,在我们力所能及的范围内,心态是我们培养“随机应变”并防范“内建不幸”最有效的工具之一。这并非“毒性积极”(toxic positivity),也不是忽视痛苦或悲伤。而是接受它们,与之共处,然后问自己:“我现在还能控制什么?我现在能专注于什么?”
以我的经历为例,失去房屋带来了巨大的痛苦,而且这种痛苦不会很快消失。我仍会在早晨醒来时思考:“怎么会发生这种事?”但与此同时,一些意想不到的事情也发生了。它激发了新的研究,给了我重塑的目标感,并凝聚了我们周围的社群。我与岳父母的关系也因此更加亲近,我们共度了更多时光。于是,在灰烬之中,新的生命开始萌芽。
伟大的灵感来源 Viktor Frankl 曾说过:“一个人可以被剥夺一切,但只剩下一件事:人类最后的自由——在任何既定环境下选择自己的态度,选择自己的道路。”我深信这是至理名言。我们无法选择火灾、风暴或危机,但我们可以选择如何面对它们。而正是这种选择,开启了“随机应变”的起点——一个全新的篇章,甚至可能是一本全新的书。我希望我们能共同构建一个更注重“随机应变”设计、更能防范“内建不幸”的世界。下一次,当意想不到的事情发生在您身上时,愿“随机应变”与您同在。谢谢大家。(掌声)
Original English
Now why is this serendipity mindset, this capacity to turn the unexpected into positive outcomes so important? Well because the unexpected is everywhere, whether we see it or not, and whether we like it or not, right? The likelihood of one specific unexpected event happening is very low, right? It’s very unlikely that the lady here yells at me or the gentleman here throws a peach at me, right? That's very -- I hope that's unlikely. I mean, you never know, but it's very unlikely in itself. But when you add up all the possible unexpected things that could happen, all these infinite, unexpected things that could happen out there, it actually becomes quite likely that something unexpected happens. And that's quite scary to me as a German, right? We love planning, we love having a strategy and straight lines. And then life is a little bit more like a squiggle, right? Where unexpected events come from everywhere. And so we have to build a muscle for that. And that is true for good luck, but it's also true for bad luck, right? The same alertness to our surroundings, the ability to connect our dots that helps us nurture serendipity, can also help us guard against the impacts of zemblanity. And you know, of course, mindset is not a cure-all, right? Our research also shows that things like education, networks, safety nets play a huge role when it comes to opportunity spaces. But on the individual level, for what is at our disposal, mindset is one of the most effective tools we have to nurture serendipity and guard against zemblanity. It's not toxic positivity. It's not ignoring pain, it's not ignoring grief. It’s accepting it, it’s working with it, and then saying, "What can I still control now? What can I still focus on now?" And, you know, in our case, there was a lot of pain around losing our house, right? And that doesn't really go away that quickly. I still wake up in the morning and think, how can that happen. But alongside it, something unexpected happened. It sparked new research. It gave me a renewed sense of purpose, and it rallied the community around us. I am far closer now with my in-laws, with whom we spend much more time. And so out of the ashes, something new is beginning to grow. Viktor Frankl, who has been a great inspiration to me, once said that "everything can be taken from a [hu]man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms -- to choose one's attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one's own way." And I believe that's very true. We can't pick the fires, the storms, the crises, but we can choose how we meet them. And that choice is where serendipity begins as the unexpected starting point for a new chapter and potentially a whole new book. My hope is that we start building a world that is designing more for serendipity and guards against zemblanity. And the next time something unexpected happens to you, may serendipity be with you. Thank you. (Applause)
📌 文中提及的人物和组织
人物: Spencer Silver, Arthur Fry
公司/组织: 3M