Speaker 1: whether you are have never been married or um your divorced or you're separated， Speaker 1: or your widowed， Speaker 1: or you are currently married， Speaker 1: regardless of what state iran the next verse supplies to all of us。Speaker 1: look of this。 Speaker 1: first， Speaker 1: he brews thirteen four marriage should be honored。 Speaker 1: read it with mate by everyone circle that by everyone。 Speaker 1: so regardless of whether i ever marry or not or whether i've been married in the past， Speaker 1: and i'm not now i am to honor marriage。 Speaker 1: the bible says， Speaker 1: by god， Speaker 1: everyone is to give honor to marriage。 Speaker 1: no sadly， Speaker 1: marriage is no longer honored by everyone in our society， Speaker 1: in fact，Speaker 1: just the exact opposite。 Speaker 1: but today，Speaker 1: marriage is dismissed as irrelevant by many people as and our cake， Speaker 1: they who needs to get married。 Speaker 1: that's something somemany made it in another generation or another culture， Speaker 1: a man made lifestle choice and really it's dismissed。 Speaker 1: nobody needs to get married today。 Speaker 1: it's the mean by ried。 Speaker 1: you're get marto me as a career buster。 Speaker 1: you're getting married where thethere goes your career。 Speaker 1: most people i don't know why marriage matters。 Speaker 1: in fact， Speaker 1: most people either a have an incredibly unrealistic view of marriage，Speaker 1: which there's no way anybody could measure up to it or two。Speaker 1: they're just flat out wrong about the meaning and the purpose and the design of marriage。Speaker 1: most people don't get it right。

Speaker 1: number two， Speaker 1: god created marriage for the multification of the human race for the multification of the human race。Speaker 1: god populated the human planet through marriage for thousands of years。 Speaker 1: billions of people have come on into existence， Speaker 1: because men and women got married and let let me show you some versus enous is one twenty seven， Speaker 1: says this for god created people in his own image。 Speaker 1: he patterned them after himself， Speaker 1: creating both male and female with his image。 Speaker 1: then so not every males don't have all the image god females。 Speaker 1: we both get parts of god's image， Speaker 1: then god blessed them 对对对， Speaker 1: and comandded them。 Speaker 1: now here's the very first command。Speaker 1: god gives to the human race and want you you to read it aloud with great gusto，Speaker 1: ready。 Speaker 1: here we go。 Speaker 1: god commands them be fruitful and multiple and fill the earth。 Speaker 1: it's a second reason， Speaker 1: a second purpose of marriage number three。

Speaker 1: the third reason guy created marriage for the connection of minen and women for the multification of human race。 Speaker 1: third， Speaker 1: for the protection of children。 Speaker 1: now every single study done has proven that kids develop best with a mom and a debt that we're in a broken planet broker， Speaker 1: not everything works， Speaker 1: right？ Speaker 1: we know that，Speaker 1: but that doesn't mean that we say the ideal isn't real it is and the statistics burd out children survive and thrive in families， Speaker 1: not an institutions。Speaker 1: that's why it settle。 Speaker 1: we we believe in in ororananages。 Speaker 1: we don't fund orphanages。Speaker 1: we don't build orphanages。 Speaker 1: we don't believe in orphanages， Speaker 1: why？ Speaker 1: because no kid deserves to grow up in an institution that deserved to grow in a family and be more important toubt finance，Speaker 1: a family to take that child in。 Speaker 1: yeah，Speaker 1: you clap for that。 Speaker 1: and and so we're working in rwanda。 Speaker 1: rwanda will become the first nation on the planet earth，Speaker 1: but in the next year， Speaker 1: hopefully to be the first nation with no orphanages because we've been using in the peaceplan churches， Speaker 1: moving them into families。 Speaker 1: children's instress are best perfeccted in intact family。 Speaker 1: notice this first private fourteen， Speaker 1: twenty six， Speaker 1: those who obey and respect the lord other words， Speaker 1: do life the way godsays to do it。 Speaker 1: those who be in respect the lord， Speaker 1: have a secure fortress。 Speaker 1: their children have a place of refuge and security。 Speaker 1: that's what every child needs gone up a place of refuge and security， Speaker 1: and not worrying is dad going to walk out is mom gonna walk out whatever。 Speaker 1: now you know， Speaker 1: when the past used to hear about couples， Speaker 1: they say all they stayed together for the sake of the kids。 Speaker 1: and for many generations， Speaker 1: when people stayed together for the sake of the kids that was considered an honor， Speaker 1: a compliment， Speaker 1: they are unselfish， Speaker 1: they are mature。Speaker 1: they stayed together for the sake of the kids。 Speaker 1: today， Speaker 1: people laugh at that statement， Speaker 1: staying together for the sake again。 Speaker 1: what do you talk about you gottta do what's best for you really？ Speaker 1: do you always have to do what's best for you？ Speaker 1: that's called narcissystem。 Speaker 1: can you sometimes do something that may be best for somebody else？ Speaker 1: can you sometimes do something that's best for somebody for the sake of someone who's more vulnerable than you are？ Speaker 1: that's called maturity。 Speaker 1: that's called themselfishous。Speaker 1: that's called love today and our arccstistic cuture ture judge everything。Speaker 1: but i've ve tta do what's best for me。Speaker 1: no， Speaker 1: you don't。 Speaker 1: in fact， Speaker 1: you'll never be happy， Speaker 1: trying to always do whabest for you。 Speaker 1: you'll be a selfish little cloud， [Speaker 0]: bitter clad， Speaker 1: that's a passtorous cuss。 [Speaker 0]: word never four。

Speaker 1: god created marriage for the connection of men and women for the multification and human relations， Speaker 1: how we all got here for the protection of children never force as a big one。 Speaker 1: god created marriage for the perfection of our character。 Speaker 1: god created marriage for the perfection of our character。 Speaker 1: it is in relationships that we learn to be unselfish。 Speaker 1: we learned to be unloving，Speaker 1: and no relationship has greater impact on your life， Speaker 1: then marriage， Speaker 1: if you get married。 Speaker 1: now another one of the facts about when you were born， Speaker 1: not only where you're helpless，Speaker 1: you were completely self centered。 Speaker 1: nothing on the planet。Speaker 1: earth is more self centered than a new baby。 Speaker 1: a baby does not even have the capacity to think about anyone else。 Speaker 1: all it can think about is itself。 Speaker 1: i'm too hot。 Speaker 1: i'm too cold。 Speaker 1: i'm hungry。 Speaker 1: i just pooped， Speaker 1: i need to be cleaned up or whatever。Speaker 1: the first world of baby learns is i， Speaker 1: and it's all about me as a baby maturity， Speaker 1: and the purpose of life is to grow up and realize it's not all about you。 Speaker 1: in fact，Speaker 1: this real happiness comes in giving your life away and being unselfish and being serving and being loving。 Speaker 1: and so the whole goal of your life is to go from your total self center itself as a baby to being an unselfish adult。 Speaker 1: you know，Speaker 1: some adults who are still selfish babies。 Speaker 1: yes，Speaker 1: you do don't look at them， Speaker 1: but you know who they are now。 Speaker 1: this is calbbaturity。 Speaker 1: life is a laboratory of learning how to love。 Speaker 1: why is love the most important thing in like， Speaker 1: because god is love， Speaker 1: and god wants you to become like him。 Speaker 1: he wants you to learn how to love，Speaker 1: and we learned to love and learn to be unselfish。 Speaker 1: now， Speaker 1: the bible says this， Speaker 1: in probabof， Speaker 1: eighteen one， Speaker 1: it is selfish， Speaker 1: and it is stupid to think only of yourself。 Speaker 1: and so how do i get out of that？ Speaker 1: well，Speaker 1: what marriage is a lifelong course in learning to be unselfish， Speaker 1: because once you get married， Speaker 1: i can no longer think about me。Speaker 1: i got to think about。 Speaker 1: we， Speaker 1: i can't think about just me， Speaker 1: myself gone。Speaker 1: how many of you， Speaker 1: as who are married，Speaker 1: who had to learned pretty quickly that once you got married， Speaker 1: you could always do whatever you wanted to do the rest of your liars because you don't get to do everything you want to do once you get married yet to learn to compromise， Speaker 1: you have to learn to think of the other person。 Speaker 1: and marriage is the laboratory for learning how to love。 Speaker 1: now listen， Speaker 1: god wants to make you like jesus crisis。 Speaker 1: it's the number one goal in 's life。Speaker 1: he wants to grow up。 Speaker 1: he wants to build character。 Speaker 1: you're not taken your car， Speaker 1: your career youclothes to havenyouyounot taken your character。 Speaker 1: so the most important thing you knew life is build your character。 Speaker 1: the number one tool that god uses in your life to build chicstlight character。 Speaker 1: if you are married is your spouse。Speaker 1: oh no， Speaker 1: yep， Speaker 1: because every day you get hundreds of opportunities to not think about you。 Speaker 1: you get opportunities to think of the other person to care about them。 Speaker 1: you say，Speaker 1: but my spouse， Speaker 1: my husband，Speaker 1: my wife is not even a christian。 Speaker 1: they're not a follogies that they're not to believe that matter。 Speaker 1: they don't have to be safe。 Speaker 1: there's still god's number one tool to make you like rist because they're closest to you。 Speaker 1: and they have that most impact。 Speaker 1: what should should wrwrite down down your outline。 Speaker 1: the number one purpose of marriage is to make me wholy not happy。 Speaker 1: that is so counterculture， Speaker 1: but it's a true now。 Speaker 1: here's interesting thing。 Speaker 1: once you become early，Speaker 1: that's how you get happiness。 Speaker 1: being holy makes you happy， Speaker 1: but god's 's purpose in your life is to make you holy happhappy。 Speaker 1: that's the purpose of god's marriage for your life is that you become more loving， Speaker 1: more giving more serving， Speaker 1: more sharing， Speaker 1: more mature， Speaker 1: more unselfish。Speaker 1: and as you become that guess， Speaker 1: what you get more happiness， Speaker 1: you'll never be happy。 Speaker 1: if you make it the goal of your life。 Speaker 1: happiness is elusive as a goal。Speaker 1: it's never meant to be a goal like a butterfly。 Speaker 1: you're always always reach important。 Speaker 1: you never get it when you start caring about other people rather than you're happiness， Speaker 1: you're gonna get happy。 Speaker 1: just the way god wired the universe。

Speaker 1: so god wants us to learn how to love in marriage。 Speaker 1: romanance twelve says this love sincerely hold on to what is good，Speaker 1: be devoted to each other， Speaker 1: like a loving family excel in showing respect for each other。 Speaker 1: do you do that near in your marriage？Speaker 1: do you have competition who can show the most respect？ Speaker 1: i've been， Speaker 1: i'm going to beat it than being more respectful to you。 Speaker 1: i'm going to beat it and brating more loving excel in showing respect for each other。 Speaker 1: you know， Speaker 1: before i got married so many years ago， Speaker 1: i really thought i knew had a love a woman。Speaker 1: i knew nothing about love。 Speaker 1: nothing。Speaker 1: now， Speaker 1: after thirty nine years of marriage，Speaker 1: i know that love washes the dishes。 Speaker 1: i know that love takes out the garbage shoot when you're sick， Speaker 1: love changes the bed band，Speaker 1: and out of that kind of love comes a connection and a companionship that gives you the strength and the stability to handle enormous amounts of stress when you know someone that well， Speaker 1: and you're has committed to each other。

Speaker 1: because of that reason，Speaker 1: number five， Speaker 1: god made marriage for the connection of men and women， Speaker 1: multicahuhuman race protection of children。Speaker 1: a perfection in our character got greated marriage for the construction of society。 Speaker 1: marriage is the fundamental building block of every community， Speaker 1: church，Speaker 1: state， Speaker 1: nation， Speaker 1: society and culture。 Speaker 1: if you know anything about history， Speaker 1: you know that where marriages are strong， Speaker 1: cultures and nations are strong， Speaker 1: empires are strong。 Speaker 1: you know that whever marriages and families are weak， Speaker 1: cultures nations are in decline。 Speaker 1: and we know that this that when marriages are devalued， Speaker 1: the more a nation is in decline。 Speaker 1: it's real obvious。 Speaker 1: what direction our nation is adted right now。 Speaker 1: america is not getting better is not getting stronger。Speaker 1: it's going the other direction， Speaker 1: what because we don't value marriage and family anymore， Speaker 1: we value。 Speaker 1: it's all about me。 Speaker 1: i gotto do what's best for me。 Speaker 1: we've made individualism and idle。 Speaker 1: so this for the construction of society， Speaker 1: probably ourteen thirty forces as this righteus。 Speaker 1: that means doing at god's weight list up a nation。Speaker 1: but sin not doing at god's way， Speaker 1: brings disgrace to any society。

Speaker 1: number six。 Speaker 1: this is the most important reason of all。 Speaker 1: and many of you have never ever even heard this reason for marriage，Speaker 1: but it's the primary， Speaker 1: the deepest and the most profound reason that god created marriage between a man and a woman and the unity of sex。 Speaker 1: and all of that， Speaker 1: that involves god created marriage for the reflection of our union with christ， Speaker 1: for the reflection of a union with christ。Speaker 1: it is marriage is a metaphor。 Speaker 1: it is a symbol。Speaker 1: it's a walking living object， Speaker 1: lesson of how much god loves us and how we are to be in relationship with him。 Speaker 1: marriage is a model of a profound spiritual truth。 Speaker 1: i said it's a metaphor of showing us how we're to relate to god。 Speaker 1: now let me show you one of the deepest passenges ers， Speaker 1: scscripture and pal is actually talking about the church。 Speaker 1: and christ， Speaker 1: but it uses marriage as a metaphor。 Speaker 1: they're on your outline efficients chapter five，Speaker 1: as this husbands love your wives as christ， Speaker 1: loved the church and gave himself up for her。 Speaker 1: how did chice love the church？Speaker 1: he sacrifices life。 Speaker 1: he died for the church。Speaker 1: he said， Speaker 1: husbands， Speaker 1: that's the way you're to love your right。 Speaker 1: you're to die for your wife。 Speaker 1: that's the kind of love your dad。Speaker 1: sacriofficial luck where her knees are soft before years that you sacrifice your life husband's， Speaker 1: love your ves， Speaker 1: just as christ，Speaker 1: love the church and gave himself up for her。 Speaker 1: he christ died so that he could give the church to himself as a bride in all her beauty in the same way。Speaker 1: husbands should love their wives as they love their own bodies。 Speaker 1: no one ever hates their own body， Speaker 1: but he feeds it。Speaker 1: he takes care of it， Speaker 1: and that is what crize does for his church， Speaker 1: his body。 Speaker 1: the church is a bride church as a body。 Speaker 1: now the scrippture says，Speaker 1: and he's quoting diversion gengenices。 Speaker 1: we just looked at， Speaker 1: and the scrippture says a man is united with his wife and the two become one body。 Speaker 1: this is a profound mystery，Speaker 1: but i'm talking about christ and the church that women wame。 Speaker 1: i went it。 Speaker 1: paul， Speaker 1: i actually talking about marriage here， Speaker 1: husband's so h， Speaker 1: no， Speaker 1: no， Speaker 1: he，Speaker 1: ys。 Speaker 1: yes， Speaker 1: i know i'm used in marriage， Speaker 1: but it's a metaphor of our spiritual union with christst and chrished and his love for his family， Speaker 1: his body，Speaker 1: his bride， Speaker 1: the chriis，Speaker 1: the church。 Speaker 1: so he said， Speaker 1: because marriage is a metaphor of christ in the church。 Speaker 1: so each husband must love his wife as much as he loves himself as he loves himself， Speaker 1: and it says， Speaker 1: each wife must respect her husband。 Speaker 1: now that passage is so deep。Speaker 1: i'm going。 Speaker 1: i've take a whole other message sometime and explain it in detail。 Speaker 1: let me just say it this week。Speaker 1: this is the most profound meaning of marriage。 Speaker 1: there re's some benefits of marriage that are obvious and quantifiable like this。 Speaker 1: what it does， Speaker 1: the kids， Speaker 1: what it does，Speaker 1: the women， Speaker 1: what it does， Speaker 1: the men， Speaker 1: the benefits of a impact marriage for life are uncontroversible irrefutiable。 Speaker 1: and there are a lot of benefits marriage that you can just look， Speaker 1: you know， Speaker 1: mpirically judging the scientific data， Speaker 1: but this one， Speaker 1: the most profound meeting of marriage is， Speaker 1: is not as easy to grass。 Speaker 1: it's harder to understand appreciate how marriage reflects our union with christ and our relationship。Speaker 1: ps m。 Speaker 1: now listen， Speaker 1: no other relationship on planeters none none， Speaker 1: including parent child relation。Speaker 1: no other relationship can adequately illustrate our union with christ。 Speaker 1: the way marriage between en mman and a woman does。 Speaker 1: this is the strongest reason。Speaker 1: this number six， Speaker 1: why marriage matters？Speaker 1: this is the strongest reason why marriage cannot be redefined。 Speaker 1: this is the strongest reason why it must be protected at all costs because we are the body of christ。 Speaker 1: we are the briright of christ in union with christst and marriage。 Speaker 1: is that metaphor？

Speaker 1: and let me summarx what i'm saying before we get into the practical part is that it really then matter what other people think about marriage it， Speaker 1: that matter what public opinion says it，Speaker 1: that matter what depenion polls say it doesn't matter。 Speaker 1: what's politically， Speaker 1: correct or incorrect， Speaker 1: what really matters is what god says who invented marriage？ Speaker 1: and you're going to live in a culture where this is absolutely counter culture。 Speaker 1: you now live in a culture that is forgotten why marriage matters。 Speaker 1: you live in a culture that does not honor it， Speaker 1: but actually the means it discourage。 Speaker 1: is it ridicules it redefines， Speaker 1: it dismisses it and on and on。Speaker 1: and as result， Speaker 1: we could see what happened in society。Speaker 1: we now have people who go to us vegas get drunk and in spontaneous oment go to wewedding travel， Speaker 1: get married and twenty four hours later get divorce because it's no big deal。 Speaker 1: it's just a social contract。Speaker 1: we have celebrities who spend a full year and millions and millions and millions of dollars on a wedding and the preparations for the wedding last longer than the marriage。 Speaker 1: we have people going from one relationship to the next to the next in serial marriages， Speaker 1: and they don't understand the meaning and the mystery。 Speaker 1: now what's amazing about all of this is that when we live in a culture that's forgotten why marriage matters。 Speaker 1: we still honor。 Speaker 1: and it still makes big news when a couple makes it a long time。Speaker 1: and it's still big news when we hear on the radio or tv in a magazine that couple has been married sixty years that couples been married sixty five， Speaker 1: seventy。 Speaker 1: that couple has been married seventy five years。 Speaker 1: why？ Speaker 1: because in spite of all the public and political pressure， Speaker 1: we instinctively as human beings inside no， Speaker 1: and we recognize the beauty and the sweetness of one man and one woman committing themselves to become one fllesh and living together in love for their entire lives。 Speaker 1: that is a beautiful thing， Speaker 1: and we know it， Speaker 1: and we know it。 Speaker 1: and we know that deep down inside of us， Speaker 1: instinctively， Speaker 1: we are wired to want this everybody craves the safety of a relationship where you are so fully known and known by each other， Speaker 1: and it lasts for life。 Speaker 1: everybody once said。 Speaker 1: so i'm i'm going to ask in just second kid to come out weyoull talk a little bit about this。 Speaker 1: but let me just in this section to this part， Speaker 1: twice in the biable。Speaker 1: jesus says， Speaker 1: there's going to be no marriage and heaven hua， Speaker 1: no， Speaker 1: no marriage and heaven。Speaker 1: jesus said it twice。 Speaker 1: he knows more about the neor meat。 Speaker 1: why were they be no marriage in heaven because you won't need any the six reasons marriage exist in a perfect place that you're not going to need the multiplication of the human race in a perfect place。 Speaker 1: you're not going to a need the protection of children in a perfect place。 Speaker 1: you're not going to need the perfection of your character。 Speaker 1: you're not gona need the construction of society。Speaker 1: you're not gona need the reflection of chriis union。 Speaker 1: you don't need a metaphor because you're going to experience the real thing in heaven。Speaker 1: but here on earth， Speaker 1: marriage matters and the bible says we are to honor it， Speaker 1: whether we're ever married or we're married，Speaker 1: are lost to med or whatever we're to honor marriage。

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