Hello everyone, I'm Anthony. Welcome to my channel. In the first two videos, we discussed NTR fantasies and the psychological state behind it.

I believe everyone will find our analysis this is not limited to this particular case, more through this case to reveal a universal spiritual structure.

As we said in the last video, when we analyze a certain sexual fantasy in depth, us, we can also learn from the various subcultures that emerge, see similar background.

So, today we are going to talk about another online subculture, that is, effeminate culture, or women's clothing culture.

This also shows the spiritual world of people, especially at the unconscious level, a rather delicate and complex mechanism.

This video, let’s try to analyze the logic behind this.

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Before we dive into the analysis, first, a clear definition is needed, what exactly is the sissy culture we are discussing today?

The word itself is complex, because it blurs traditional gender boundaries.

"Nanny" refers to those who are biologically male, but in appearance and posture, they are highly feminine, even individuals who are more consistent with female stereotypes.

They often use exquisite makeup, highly feminine clothing and specific body language to highlight the cute and sexy characteristics, such as fair skin, slender waist and cute expression, sexy poses, white or black stockings, etc.

Therefore, although I am playing a woman, but the women they want to watch and play, it's better to say it's more, is a perfect female symbol that meets men's desires.

He and real women, not much, it's a highly edited image of a woman.

He filters out the complexity of real women, only retain and enlarge, function as an object of male desire.

It's like an actress in a porn movie, the actresses she plays are not real women, it's the same principle.

The groups covered by the male-girl culture, although the identities are diverse, but they are undoubtedly men.

We can roughly divide it into three categories.

The second is the private fantasist or actor, that is to say, having a fantasy of wearing women's clothing, or only in private spaces or small circles, men who practice cross-dressing. The number of people in this group, of course it's much bigger than the first one.

The third is anonymous consumers, this is also the largest group, they use the Internet and other channels, watching and consuming images related to male sissies, video and cultural products, and obtain sexual satisfaction from it.

We will not delve into the first group for now. This is not only because their proportion is very small, it's because of turning fantasy into reality, and as a public social identity, their behavior motivations are often mixed with economic, career development and other practical factors.

I mainly want to analyze the latter two groups of people, that is, a person who secretly desires to be a woman, and anonymous consumers.

Because they don't express their desires or fantasies, put it into action, instead, it can better reflect the purity of fantasy.

Why in psychoanalysis, analyzing pure fantasy, is it more meaningful than analyzing the actual actions?

Because fantasy is the most primitive thing in a person's heart, the most direct blueprint.

Action, it is always the result of a compromise between this blueprint and reality.

A person in fantasy, infinite access to the core of his unconscious desires, he can break all taboos without restraint, anyway, there is no price or cost.

But when he was about to put his fantasy into action, we must consider the various limitations of reality.

For example, does his appearance allow, does his financial situation support it, will the social environment punish him, what consequences will the gaze of others bring?

All these realistic factors, will force him to modify and delete, even distorting your most primitive fantasy.

These compromises and noise, it will block the most genuine expression of his inner desires.

Therefore, by analyzing the purest, a fantasy blueprint untainted by reality, we can see more clearly what drives everything, the most fundamental desire structure and psychological problems.

Then the masculine culture, what kind of psychological symptoms does it reflect?

We are on station b, you can see a lot of male girls, or videos with keywords like "cross-dressing guy". I think these videos can be roughly divided into two categories.

Category 1, this is a video that simply introduces and records women's clothing life, for example, the title of this video is, "Boys insist on wearing women's clothes for a year, what happens?", "Guide to using high heels" and so on.

This type of video, satisfies the male audience's voyeurism and curiosity, he just provided a superficial information, the audience will not leave, just a pure observer.

The second type of video is a situational drama video, for example, a title like "When I called my brothers to go out and surf the Internet, and I wear women's clothing, what happens?", “How will your roommates react when you dress like a woman?”, Or "If your roommate goes home and thinks about boys, don't even think about sleeping." Or "I was approached while wearing women's clothing to get takeout" etc.

This type of video not only records the details of the life of the man and the woman, and, make it easy for the audience to empathize, a character in the scene, such as a passerby, roommate, stranger, etc.

Why, which of the second scripts is more worthy of analysis? Because it reveals that the audience is in this fantasy, is indispensable, role.

Life record videos, it may be misunderstood as a person's self-entertainment, the situational video, this reveals the key point of the male girl's fantasy, it's never the actor's own self-admiration.

The efforts of the parties, such as makeup, clothing, performance, all for the sake of being the male other, like roommates, brothers, good buddies, desire of male passers-by, etc.

The establishment of fantasy is inseparable from the gaze of others.

This type of subject matter also has several core dramatic elements. First, the pleasure of the story, often comes from a broken, a powerful moment.

This moment, it means that the other person suddenly discovered the true gender of the man-girl. And the place where the man appeared, it is often in male dormitories and internet cafe rooms, or social occasions among brothers and sisters.

These are highly masculine, there is almost no room for real women.

And when they discover the existence of male girls, the man will immediately fall into a dominated relationship, become the passive one, waiting to be dealt with, tempting object.

Because he's not a real woman after all, this makes it easier for other men to approach him, it will not be considered an offense against women, it is legal contact between men.

Why this kind of plot, get used to setting, what if a girl suddenly appears in the boys' dormitory or other places?

Because the real audience and target of this drama, it's never women or society as a whole, the male group itself.

Places such as the men's dormitory, it is the soil for constructing and confirming masculinity.

Here, men talk about women, games, sports, etc., to strengthen each other's masculine identity.

There are no real women here, but it is full of, imagination and desire for the abstract symbol of woman.

Therefore, this space is a place where desires are highly compressed, but there is no pressure cooker to release.

The sudden intrusion of the man, it's like being in this pressure cooker of desire, drop a bomb.

He suddenly became the male space, the only focus and answer to all desires, his desirability was magnified to the extreme.

Here, everyone will chase her without a doubt, desire to possess her.

For those men who want to be a man, instead, you will experience an extreme pleasure from it, and a sense of power.

It's just that he is passively masochistic, to gain this power.

And for, for men who regard girls as objects of desire, this fantasy, it is equivalent to happening in a lawless place, therefore, it can also release pleasure to the greatest extent.

In a normal interaction between men and women, male desire, governed by a series of symbolic laws.

This law includes social ethics, legal norms, and respect for women as independent subjects.

A man, you can't touch a woman directly, his movements were blocked by this wall.

But in the boys' dormitory scene, this law targeting women, ingeniously suspended in the logic of fantasy.

Because the biological sex of a man is male, then any physical contact with him by other men, can be used in "playing around with brothers" and "joking", "Curious touching" is carried out under the guise of legality.

Through this fantasy, sadistic fantasists can strip away the guilt of sexual violence, reduce it to a pure natural force and, drama of Surrender.

And the masochist who longs to be a man's wife, no burden, enjoy the charm of yourself to the fullest, causing the other party to lose control, pure pleasure.

That's it, we have to ask this question, if a man fantasizes about becoming a masculine, gaining a sense of power in this fantasy, but power comes in countless forms, such as gaining wealth, knowledge, fame or social status, it can give a person a sense of power.

Why the parties, will choose to take, this, what about sexual fantasies that seem so devious and perverse?

Here, we must emphasize a principle of psychoanalysis, that's how symptoms develop, forever and Trauma, or lack of core areas directly related to, solution, always responding precisely to the root cause of trauma.

As, what we talked about in the sexual fantasy video, any form of sexual fantasy, it always points to the pursuit of security.

This sense of security is not the security we usually understand, because a lot of sexual fantasies seem really dangerous, not safe at all.

But the sense of security mentioned here, mainly refers to, free from those who lead to self-attack, the threat of pathological beliefs.

Fantasize about becoming a billionaire, it cannot directly cure a person, feeling like a man, the pain of having no charm.

Because of financial success, unable to respond directly to the one deep in his heart, the voice that kept mocking him: "You're not attractive", "You Can't Get Love".

He must be, on this purest battlefield, turn defeat into victory in a fantastical way.

He wants to be in the place where he feels most incompetent, experience the ultimate power.

This can also explain, a persistent problem on the Chinese internet, "Give you 10 million in cash, in exchange for your Tsinghua, Peking University or other 985 degrees, would you like to?"

From a purely economic perspective, a diploma itself, it's totally inadequate to compare with 10 million in cash. This question itself seems to lack social common sense.

However, the reason why such problems can be so varied is that, it continues to spark discussion among many people, it's not because people are really doing economic calculations, but because, it touched countless people on the single-plank bridge of the college entrance examination, the collective trauma and anxiety experienced.

It is because the intensity of the trauma is too high, logic that overwhelms common sense, this makes this problem, become a meaningful symptom, and exposed the human spiritual world, the irrational side.

People are never purely rational economic people, our value judgment, to a large extent unconscious, driven by symbolic logic.

And fantasy, always manifested as the most faithful to trauma, a "mirror" response, the male girl fantasy also accurately reflects this point.

Why do some men, do you have the fantasy of becoming a sissy? First, it all started from a traumatic point, the subject feels a lack of masculinity.

Whether it is due to strict family education, patriarchal oppression, the frustration of growing up, or is it because of the current social culture, high demands placed on successful men.

In short, he felt deeply powerless in reality, he felt that he could not be an attractive, successful men, to gain the favor of the opposite sex.

In this frustration, the image of women is distorted, the woman he couldn't have, in his fantasy, from an equal, became a high and mighty, a judge who can find fault and judge him at will.

He would think that because they are sexy and desired, so they have power, can dominate my happiness and pain.

He will infinitely magnify what this woman has, this sexual privilege.

This is of course a misunderstanding of real women, essentially, it revolves around, he unfolds his desire as a man.

The women he understands, it is based on his own powerlessness and inferiority, a fantasy image projected.

He fantasizes that women have what he doesn't have, the power that controls desire.

At this time, the "cunning tricks of the spirit" come into play, he faces two paths.

The first is the realistic path, that is through real effort, a long period of study and struggle, to become a person who controls life, attractive man. This road is difficult, full of uncertainty, and you may suffer new failures at any time.

The second path is the fantasy path, he soon discovered a, a shortcut to quickly repair trauma, that is the fantasy of becoming a woman directly.

The parties feel, since I can't be a strong man, then I can also play a female, come be a strong man or a group of strong men, object of desire.

Through this dramatic identity swap, he transformed himself, from a loser who pursues his desires but fails, becoming the center of desire for all men.

He no longer needs to pursue anyone, he just needs to be there to arouse others' desire.

In this way, he is in fantasy, but it feels so real, he regained power, even through masochism.

But this just shows, the human unconscious is indeed a tireless, constantly seeking shortcuts, a master who relieves trauma and deprivation.

Similar conversions are also very common in real life, for example, a child is very afraid of an imaginary monster, or someone, strict teacher.

He felt weak, passive, vulnerable at any time, so he suddenly started playing the monster, imitate the teacher's tone to teach other children.

At this moment, he does this by becoming the source of that fear, merge the two into one, miraculously, I will turn my passive fear into, transformed into an active, a sense of power over everything.

This is exactly the same logic as the male fantasy, I can't defeat the power that makes me feel powerless, then I will join her and become her.

For example, some people feel that they are in life, all the time, all controlled by an omnipotent organization, this organization has been following him and persecuting him.

He felt so powerless and miserable, however, through such a narrative, instead, he strengthened his own value.

If I were targeted by such a powerful organization, this just illustrates, I have some potential to scare people, I am extremely important to this world.

thus, individuals defend themselves against the feeling of insignificance and powerlessness, even though it is through the fantasy of being persecuted.

So far we have analyzed many, symptoms and hallucinations that seem strange and peculiar, from NTR plot to effeminate culture, then to conspiracy theories.

But they all have one thing in common, that is, they are all subjects, a retreat in the face of real setbacks and trauma, regression.

Regression doesn't just mean becoming childish in behavior, it refers to, from a more mature, more complex patterns of libido satisfaction, such as work, love and creation, back to an earlier era, a more direct and primitive form of narcissism.

However, is a spiritual phenomenon sublimation or regression, symptom or creation? There is no external, absolutely objective standard, distinguishing all this.

final, the yardstick lies in the subject's relationship to his own fantasy.

As we said before, when a person, dominated by these unconscious conflicts and fantasies, tortured by him, ashamed and confused for him, but can't get rid of, when you are trapped in compulsive repetition, he is a symptom.

In the symptoms, individuals are passive, a slave to one's own unconsciousness.

However, when the subject becomes aware of its existence, be aware of its working mechanism, when you understand the trauma and deprivation it stems from, everything changes.

The nature of fantasy has undergone a fundamental shift, there is a certain distance between the subject and the fantasy, he is no longer the one consumed by fantasy.

At this moment, fantasy is no longer just a, symptoms that need to be cured, it may become a valuable, towards a career of creativity and subjectivity.

for example, recognize and analyze your symptoms through thinking, individuals can create thought-provoking works.

He can use this unique desire, structure and life experience, sublimate into an article, a painting, a video.

Even in life, he can do so on the premise of knowing, safety and voluntariness, this fantasy, transformed into a, games or hobbies that explore oneself and one's relationships.

The key difference is, a person is passive and becomes a symptom, or actively use symptoms to create?

From an object determined by the unconscious, become a person who can speak, the subject who analyzes and transforms his own unconscious.

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