2025送礼指南：如何为最难取悦的人挑选礼物

Hey there, it's Christine.

This season, we're dropping a series of giftgiving episodes.

You should check out the last one that we dropped all about gift suggestions from our expert staff.

These are items that they really loved in 2025.

And you know, it's their job to find great stuff. So, everything is awesome in that episode.

Today we're focusing on potentially one of the most challenging scenarios in the giftgiving world and that is people who are hard to shop for.

We all probably have someone like this in our lives. Maybe it's somebody who's really picky or they have really excellent taste or maybe they just never seem to be quite happy with what you've given them.

So, we're going to take on this challenge today and try to come up with great ideas for people who are hard to please.

Whatever the conundrum, Wire Cutter usually has someone on staff who can help.

And in this case, we have the perfect person.

Hannah Moral is a supervising editor on our gifts team.

She joined us last year to talk about affordable gifts.

And today, she's going to answer your questions about what to get people who are just really challenging to buy gifts for.

Stay tuned to hear Hannah's expert advice to get great gifts that will impress.

Be right back.

Welcome back.

I'm here with Hannah Moral, supervising editor of gifts coverage at Wire Cutter.

Hannah leads a team of gift writers who spend all year searching high and low for amazing gifts.

They look on the internet. They look in real life. They scour Wire Cutters other product recommendations to handpick items that they think will make great gifts.

Welcome to the show, Hannah.

Thank you, Christine.

It's so great to have you.

Okay, so if somebody is thinking about a particular person that they want to buy a gift for, they know that they're hard to please. They're going to start the shopping journey.

What are the sort of questions that you recommend people ask themselves or you know maybe some parameters that people can use?

I really try to think back on my relationship with the person as of late and think about like conversations we've had or texts we've exchanged or links they've sent me and things that have sort of like energized them in the most recent correspondence that we've had together.

My friend Lee is always texting me stuff about jewelry, right?

She's always like, "Do you like this? Do you like this? How about this? What about that?

Is she Is she dropping your hints?"

So like I'm like but she just that's like an interest for her right she has a lot of energy around that you know my partner the only thing I can get him to like really engage with me on conversation these days is about his garden like that is you will see no one more enlivened than Jim when his garden is at hand people give you hints people tell you you know what is it that they're interested and then that sort of helps me to like narrow in on okay Jim's feeling this garden moment how can I support that how can I acknowledge that how can I like show that I've been like listening to you over the past year or whatever And you'd be surprised even people that you're not in touch with so much. I think people do tell you what they're interested in and tell you where their hearts sort of lie at the moment.

she has a lot of energy around that you know my partner the only thing I can get him to like really engage with me on conversation these days is about his garden like that is you will see no one more enlivened than Jim when his garden is at hand people give you hints people tell you you know what is it that they're interested and then that sort of helps me to like narrow in on okay Jim's feeling this garden moment how can I support that how can I acknowledge that how can I like show that I've been like listening to you over the past year or whatever And you'd be surprised even people that you're not in touch with so much. I think people do tell you what they're interested in and tell you where their hearts sort of lie at the moment.

my partner the only thing I can get him to like really engage with me on conversation these days is about his garden like that is you will see no one more enlivened than Jim when his garden is at hand people give you hints people tell you you know what is it that they're interested and then that sort of helps me to like narrow in on okay Jim's feeling this garden moment how can I support that how can I acknowledge that how can I like show that I've been like listening to you over the past year or whatever And you'd be surprised even people that you're not in touch with so much. I think people do tell you what they're interested in and tell you where their hearts sort of lie at the moment.

you will see no one more enlivened than Jim when his garden is at hand people give you hints people tell you you know what is it that they're interested and then that sort of helps me to like narrow in on okay Jim's feeling this garden moment how can I support that how can I acknowledge that how can I like show that I've been like listening to you over the past year or whatever And you'd be surprised even people that you're not in touch with so much. I think people do tell you what they're interested in and tell you where their hearts sort of lie at the moment.

people give you hints people tell you you know what is it that they're interested and then that sort of helps me to like narrow in on okay Jim's feeling this garden moment how can I support that how can I acknowledge that how can I like show that I've been like listening to you over the past year or whatever And you'd be surprised even people that you're not in touch with so much. I think people do tell you what they're interested in and tell you where their hearts sort of lie at the moment.

how can I acknowledge that how can I like show that I've been like listening to you over the past year or whatever And you'd be surprised even people that you're not in touch with so much. I think people do tell you what they're interested in and tell you where their hearts sort of lie at the moment.

how can I like show that I've been like listening to you over the past year or whatever And you'd be surprised even people that you're not in touch with so much. I think people do tell you what they're interested in and tell you where their hearts sort of lie at the moment.

And you'd be surprised even people that you're not in touch with so much. I think people do tell you what they're interested in and tell you where their hearts sort of lie at the moment.

That's so thoughtful.

I think that's just a good general tip, right, for any gift giving to be thoughtful.

All right, so this is where we get into the really fun part of this episode.

We have some listener questions.

Oh, I love these.

I I know you do and I know you're going to have some great suggestions for these folks.

So, let's listen to this first question from Sue.

Hi, wire cutter.

I would love to have some gift suggestions for my daughter.

My daughter is an Olympic sailor.

She sailed at Tokyo and Paris and is hoping to qualify for Los Angeles.

She doesn't like a lot of things.

She doesn't like a lot of stuff because she has a small apartment and she's traveling a lot.

She travels and sails in a lot of foreign countries.

So, she's got access to all that.

And I certainly can't afford to buy her a new boat.

So, I'd love some suggestions.

Thank you very much.

Sue, your daughter is fascinating.

I I kind of want to live her life and I hope my daughter is sailing the world in 18 years.

Okay.

So Sue's daughter is an athlete, travels a ton, very into sailing, does not have much space.

What are some things that come to mind?

The first thing that came to mind for me was I've done this with this family cottage we have is commission a little portrait of her boat.

Um, I was thinking about maybe a really special boat to her that she won a big race on or just maybe her first boat.

I'm sure you have some photographs kicking around.

And there's this service called My Da Vinci and the website looks like it hasn't been updated since 1996, but the service is incredible.

They like sort of employ this stable of artists.

You can choose watercolor or charcoal, whatever your vibe is.

And within I mean, I feel like I got mine in 36 hours. you'll get a proof of this portrait of your I did like I said I did a cabin but you could do her boat and you could give feedback like oh you know um there was sort of like bushes that were over rot or whatever and I sort of gave that feedback they adjusted a little bit and then 2 weeks later or a week later I got this like beautiful watercolor portrait of a family cabin that's like so treasured now.

you'll get a proof of this portrait of your I did like I said I did a cabin but you could do her boat and you could give feedback like oh you know um there was sort of like bushes that were over rot or whatever and I sort of gave that feedback they adjusted a little bit and then 2 weeks later or a week later I got this like beautiful watercolor portrait of a family cabin that's like so treasured now.

you'll get a proof of this portrait of your I did like I said I did a cabin but you could do her boat and you could give feedback like oh you know um there was sort of like bushes that were over rot or whatever and I sort of gave that feedback they adjusted a little bit and then 2 weeks later or a week later I got this like beautiful watercolor portrait of a family cabin that's like so treasured now.

So I feel like that would be great for your daughter and it doesn't take up a ton of space.

You could frame it.

The cool thing is you also get a digital proof of it.

So like you could use that on like you could make her a set of postcards or you could use that image elsewhere in your life after you give her the original.

That's one idea.

Great.

I love that.

Okay.

Any other ideas for Sue?

I guess it also comes to mind like her traveling so much and being just sort of almost living out of a suitcase.

There's these really expensive and amazing, they're called cadence capsules and it's for decanting your toiletries into and they're this beautiful matte texture and they tessellate together and they have this satisfying magnetism.

they're called cadence capsules and it's for decanting your toiletries into and they're this beautiful matte texture and they tessellate together and they have this satisfying magnetism.

So, I think she might love those.

Cadence capsules.

I also think, you know, we have some really good Kodapaxi packing cubes that come in these really bright colors and are pretty affordable.

I would love to receive them.

I have packing cubes. Mine stink.

Maybe she has packing cubes and hers stink too.

So, I think those could be awesome. thinking around supporting that travel lifestyle that she lives.

I love those, too.

For anyone who likes to travel, those are great gifts.

And for people who aren't familiar with packing cubes, they're basically like these little zippered pouches that you can put your clothes and your toiletries and all the various things that you travel with and keep all that stuff organized in a suitcase or a duffel bag or whatever.

And it compresses them a little bit.

So, like I like to travel with no checked luggage.

It just helps you to make that happen in a, you know, achievable way.

Yeah.

I love those.

That's so great.

Okay.

Yay.

Okay.

So, we have a similar question from a listener RM.

I'm going to read this one out loud.

My sister retired after making Fat Bank on Wall Street and wants for nothing.

As she loves personally handcrafted gifts, I've given her glassware I've hand blown, a quilt I stitched, more than one photo album with hand calligraphy, even a full dinner with a mane requiring laminated dough.

This year, I'm unlikely to have the time to create the leather sling bag I envisioned, despite having already bought the necessary autumal.

Any ideas for a gift that's at least pseudo personal that might suffice?

FYI, she herself doesn't care for taking craft lessons or classes.

Okay, this one's tough.

I know.

I like it though.

Um, the first thing that came to mind was we have an Etsy seller who if you have a little piece of handwriting from someone special, you can have it engraved onto a silver or gold cuff.

Um, for your wrist for your wrist, like it's a little it's a little cufflet and the interior would have this like script of whatever handwriting you want on it.

Maybe something funny from their mother or from their father that could be really meaningful on the interior of a bracelet and has that handmade feel because it is handmade.

This one is not handmade, but it's personalized.

Back to like plastic that isn't total junk.

Maybe you have heard of these things called Funko Pop.

We are always recommending Funko Pop.

Funko Pop are these little trinkets you can get in the mall, but you can go online and they have this really great interface where you can personalize a Funko Pop.

And for listeners, give us a picture of what a Funko Pop looks like because I don't think everybody knows what they are.

I think they're like 3 in tall.

They have little squat round little faces.

They're like a little doll.

A little doll.

A little figurine.

But they really spark joy.

I can't explain it.

That is not what I'm here to do is explain why they spark joy.

I will just tell you that they do.

They are so cute.

So this module that they have on the on the Funko Pub website, you could recreate a little figurine of your sister or of her family.

And they are just so charming and so delightful.

They come in sort of a great box that says her name on the outside.

I've really never seen one of someone that I know.

We've done a few of them in the office for like staffers and I I just love them when I see them.

So, the other thing I like about the online module is that it's not so many steps that you're going to get like bogged down and be like, I actually can't do this.

You could make an absolutely adorable one in 5 minutes flat.

So, um

I love that.

That's super fun.

I think that would also make a great maybe a little bit expensive, but a great secret Santa or gift.

Yeah, they're they're super fun.

We have got a great question from Mike in Maine who is shopping for a couple who are at once very generous but don't want or need much of anything.

Let's listen.

Hello wire cutter.

I have these wonderful friends, a terrific couple, and we are very, very close.

Buying them gifts, however, is one of the most difficult things I've ever had to do.

They are incredibly well off, totally unpretentious, and when meeting them, you'd have no idea of their wealth other than they are well-dressed and well-groomed.

They are very, very generous to me.

It's not unusual for them to spend $800 or more on me for Christmas or a birthday.

And by the way, they're also incredibly charitable and very generous to causes they believe in.

I'm nowhere near as well off as they are, and I need to be frugal.

I try to come up with things that they wouldn't think of for themselves or things that are unique for them.

I have to do this three times a year for his birthday, her birthday, and for Christmas.

I'm running out of ideas.

Please help.

This is such a challenge, Mike.

I actually identify with this one a lot.

I have been in the situation where I'm gifting something for somebody who makes a lot more money than me or they don't want for anything.

We get this one a lot.

So, I'm happy that Mike called.

And I also am from Maine, Mike.

So if you want to introduce me to your friends at any time, I'm really down.

That's no problem.

We can just get together.

We'll start with that.

So a couple things come to mind here.

Thinking about really like trusted heritage brands is a really good starting point when you're gifting someone who has more money.

So I'm thinking Pendleton, I'm talking LLBAN. I'm talking these really trusted brands that you can go to and you could get a smaller item that still really has that sort of quality and value that people could really trust.

I'm talking these really trusted brands that you can go to and you could get a smaller item that still really has that sort of quality and value that people could really trust.

I think another thing to think about is the material of the gift that you're giving.

So like we're talking wool, we're talking cotton, we're talking copper, we're talking enamel.

Think about things that will like last a really long time that have sort of like an inherent value to them.

Those things don't have to be expensive.

For Mike, I was thinking about Pendleton has a really nice $100 cotton throw that we were testing this year that we really like.

It comes in a couple great patterns.

I was thinking about that.

I love the Falcon Enamel Wear pitcher and tumblers.

So, like if Mike finds himself having like get togethers with these people, they're not expensive and they're so lovely to behold and you know, he could bring those over and it could be for like lemonade in the summer or it could hold flowers.

you know, he could bring those over and it could be for like lemonade in the summer or it could hold flowers.

The other thing, Mike being from Maine, obviously LLBA, like I can't think of anyone who couldn't use another boat tote with a you know,

you're you're required to have at least three or four as mayors, right?

That's correct.

It's like when you come into the state, they give you um and then this really weird one came to mind, Mike, that we've seen this year that we have in a couple gift guides, which is the main shakers make a handmade parlor broom.

and then this really weird one came to mind, Mike, that we've seen this year that we have in a couple gift guides, which is the main shakers make a handmade parlor broom.

So, it's just a beautiful handmade broom.

You can buy it online.

I think it's around $100.

So, and I just think it would make the most lovely gift.

Someone gave it to me a couple years back.

It is so wellm made.

It just makes sort of like an arduous task into something like I don't know kind of elevated.

So main shaker parlor room.

And then another thought Mike for you is this Bram Mountain brand which comes from Maine.

They make cotton blankets as well.

Their base level throw is really really lovely.

I can't think of if the people that you cherish so much don't already have one.

I think they'd love one.

I like that you focused on some Maine gifts.

So that might also be an idea because pretty much any state is going to have some kind of heritage brand coming out of it.

So I think that's nice and thoughtful, too.

What do you do in the scenario when somebody just absolutely says, "I don't need anything. Don't gift me anything. I'm good." Do you listen to them?

What if you feel compelled to give a gift still?

I think a lot of people struggle with that where someone's saying like, "I don't really need anything." Maybe it's like an in-law or their parent or something,

but then they still feel this, I don't know, societal expectation to give a gift.

I do go back into really good listening, hearing what they're saying.

And I also go into another level of that, which is like power of observation.

So, if you're in their home, I'm looking around.

I'm seeing what they have.

I'm seeing what maybe we could do like a little upgrade on something that they have, but we could do a little better.

If you're having dinner at their house and there's a serving tray and it has a chip in it, are we getting a new serving tray?

Have they sort of noticed something that you have and been like, "Oh gosh, I love your bag."

Try to get into upgrading things that they might already have.

And then I also really for people that say they don't want a gift, I think a upgraded staple is another great idea.

Things that absolutely everybody uses, but you could get them the very best version of that thing.

Give me some examples.

I just feel like I see like my sister, bless her little heart, they have so many junky coffee tumblers in their house.

It's a whole cabinet of horrible, horrible coffee tumblers that I think have been gifted through work and through I don't know.

Wouldn't my sister love a beautiful, perfect, non-leaking coffee tumbler that could just be perfect, fit in any cup hold, not falling over every two seconds?

fit in any cup hold, not falling over every two seconds?

So, like things like that where you could just get them the wire cutter pick of a sort of everyday item and just give them like the absolute best one.

Hannah, we have one final question.

So, this one is from Don, who is asking about gifting for her colleagues.

Let's listen.

Hi, I'm Don from Seattle, Washington.

When I was doing sales, my manager always sent a gift around the holidays, and it was something like a cake from Gold Belly or a Harry and David gift box.

Uh, something that just felt like it was out of a corporate giving catalog.

And I always assumed that it was paid for by my company.

But now that I am a manager, I've learned there is no budget for gift giving and anything I want to send comes out of my own pocket.

But we've also had some changes at work and where my previous managers have had 8 to 10 people that they manage and I manage 30.

And it's just not reasonable to send them all an $80 gift basket.

I feel stuck because I know everyone's expecting something and anything that I do that's less than what they've had before, they're going to feel like something is taken away.

So, any help would be greatly appreciated.

Thank you.

Okay, Don, we first need to talk about why do you have 30 reports?

That's way too many reports, first of all, but we will skip over that and get to the real problem.

So, Hannah, what do we do for Don?

I'm so glad that Don called.

As Don brought up, you don't want it to feel generic or like from a corporate catalog.

So, like I hate to give this advice, but like we're talking name brands, Don.

We're talking Bagu, we're talking Stanley, Hydro Flask.

A recognizable brand could be a really nice thing for people.

I do think that Bagu makes like pouches and everyone can use things like that.

I've already mentioned coffee tumblers and water bottles, but I do think people appreciate high quality versions of that.

I also think about tech in this moment.

There's this really great travel charger called the you know this one.

I just love it.

It's a great gift and if Don hasn't heard of it, she should do it.

It's a great gift and if Don hasn't heard of it, she should do it.

I think it's a sharp price.

The travel card one word charger I believe plus is the version that they're using now.

It comes in a range of colors.

You can charge a range of devices.

It's as thin as a credit card.

That would be an awesome gift.

So thinking of small little things like that could upgrade everyday lives.

I also think that travel is a really nice thing to think about when you're thinking about the people that work for you because I think it acknowledges a life outside of your day-to-day with work.

Years ago, I was gifted by the sort of editor-in chief of the magazine. I was working a passport cover, a leather passport cover, and we recommend it to this day at Wire Cutter because I still carry it.

and we recommend it to this day at Wire Cutter because I still carry it.

The brand is Tusk.

comes in again a range of colors, nice luggage tags, universal travel adapters, little travel dudads that are lovely, I think are also a really good vein of awesome gifts.

I love that.

What about consumables for Don?

You know, she mentioned a range of sort of gift baskets she's received in the past and I think that's a common gift in this kind of scenario.

Are there any of our consumable gifts that you would recommend for her?

I'm thinking like maybe things that address this issue that she has of like wanting to present something that maybe seems nicer and more expensive than she's actually spending.

Rather than going to like full on gift baskets, gifting random little tins of amazing things.

So last year we recommended this can of chips that everyone was going crazy for.

This year there's this beautiful French can of mustard.

It comes in a little pale that is Have you seen it?

It is. It's so I think the brand is Fellow. It is so delicious and layered and complex.

It's made with like the press from Champagne Grapes.

It's really lovely and under 20 bucks that also comes in a tube.

We have these really wonderful anchovy stuffed olives that people go crazy for.

There's this brand of unbelievable merated cherries called Luxardo Cherries.

So, um you love Luxardo Cherries cocktails.

So, rather than doing full-on gift basket, you could do these sort of like oneoff little very elevated, very lovely little jars or cans of delightful things.

I think that's an really nice idea as well.

Hannah, your team spends all year just canvasing the world for great gifts.

I'm curious if there are any new gifts that you're recommending this year that you're really, really excited about.

Absolutely.

So many.

I saw this block design is the brand reversible glass vase.

So if if you sit it one way, you can put like a single bloom in the like little vessel down the center and if you set it the other way, you have like a wider rim with which to put a bigger bouquet.

And I just think the like novelty of that and the practicality of that is so great.

And it's pretty enough that it could just sit on its own as well.

I think that's also nice with a vase is if it if you don't have flowers in it, you can still enjoy looking at it.

For a kids gift, we saw these Japanese cray paws.

What's a Craypaw?

Thanks for asking.

A Craypaw, I believe, is a smudgy sort of material that's sort of like I think it's like crayon and paint adjacent.

What did they water pastels they called them in the past thing.

They are this Japanese brand.

And it's this beautiful range of them.

And I think my kids would really enjoy them.

And I also think they're great for adults.

They come in a really nice little box.

And I think anyone that sort of has this like desire to paint or sort of express themselves artistically, I think it's a really nice offering.

They're really easy to work with and kind of forgiving and almost like anything you do with them kind of looks really like great and intentional.

So, I'm really into those Japanese crayons.

Oh, I almost forgot.

A thing I'm also really crazy about is this new thing called Tiny Vinyl.

Tiny Vinyl are tiny little records and they're maybe 3 in wide and they play a song on each side.

They just launched this year.

I think they're about 15 bucks.

And the cat put them on a regular regular recorder.

Oh my.

But the cool thing I like about is the edit that this company has done is like all the best classics.

So like Notorious B.I. Charlie Brown Christmas and Frank Sinatra and then also like Doi and Doaat Chapel Ran like just a really cool selection of vinyl.

I think that's a really fun little Nobody's seen that before.

Nobody's seen that before.

That's super fun.

Singles.

That's great.

Yeah, exactly.

Back to singles.

Hannah, these are such great great ideas.

I love all of them.

Thank you so much for coming.

We're going to have you back again at some point soon.

That sounds great.

Thanks for having me.

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It's going to be a really fun episode.

That's it for us.

Thanks for listening.